Simple App To Track Your Promises

Most of the people promise themselves couple of new activities and habits over the year. I do the same thing, based on what I feel is important and would help me grow. But how to track those? We deal with the same question in DEVELOR and we developed a special tool to track the action plans and their fulfilment for our training participants. But for personal use, I have a simple app, which I want to recommend to you.

For past couple of months I’ve been using the Way of Life app. It’s a simple tracking tool with a pleasant interface and that makes it easy to use.

In simple words, the app lets you set positive or negative habits and then update, whether you’ve completed them and uses the colour coding to show you at a glance, how you’re doing.

After you’ve set up the habits, this is what the week looks like:

Way of Life - Start of the Week
Way of Life – Start of the Week

This is how simple is the update. You only have 3 options: you’ve done it, you didn’t or it doesn’t apply for the day. The update in the evening takes 30 seconds (for me with 7 habits to track):

Way of Life - updating
Way of Life – updating positive habit
Way of Life - updating negative habit
Way of Life – updating negative habit

Here’s the app basic view at the end of the week (a successful one):

Way of life - this week
Way of life – this week

The best think about the app which I like is that for me, it actually pushes me to get the things done, as I really don’t want to see the red bar in the week overview. So last week, when it was already pretty late on Friday and I wasn’t feeling like reading, but had only read on Thursday, I pushed myself to read for 30 minutes, so that I can get the green slot instead of read.

Plus, there are some cool additional features, such as viewing trends for longer time, setting reminders for morning and evening to update, archiving the completed goals and other.

Way of Life - 12 W trend
Way of Life – 12 W trend

I recommend everyone to get this app, for now it’s available for iOS devices. For Android users, a quick google search returned for example this app as an option.

What do you use to track your promises to yourself? Is it an app, a paper tracker, or some other tool? Let me know, I’m really curious.

Simplest Way To Get Some Help

… and it will be given. Or at least it might be.

One thing constantly upsets me: so few people ask for what they want, even when they have the unlimited options available.

When I was still active with AIESEC, we already had a large group of alumni (ex-AIESECers), who were just one phone-call away. Despite that we used to “reinvent the wheel”, because we didn’t ask for help.

Nowadays, when I have the chance to help some of the young guys through my experience, I see that still happening. There’s so few of people who will just pick-up the phone and ask for help or advise (whether from me or from others).

Most of the times if you state your request honestly, you will be treated with respect. You don’t even need to be offering anything in return (though it’s great if you find some benefits for the other side).

In most of the cases, people are keen on helping. Some actually long to be given the chance to contribute to others. Some like to be asked, because it gives them the feeling of appreciation. Some might say no. But many will say “yes”.

Worst case you end up where you have started. Best case, you will get what you want. Everything it takes is to step forward. Without asking, you’ll get a “No” for sure.

So go ahead and ask. It might be given.

Create a NOT-TO-DO List As Well

I already wrote about setting good boundaries. Now I want to share some DO-NOT-DOs, which help me to contribute my best. Maybe you can find some of them helpful:

  • don’t criticise without an alternative,
  • don’t judge before fully understanding,
  • don’t assume you know best,
  • don’t hesitate,
  • don’t underestimate people,
  • don’t argue, use arguments,
  • don’t hurt intentionally,
  • don’t postpone an apology,
  • don’t regret,
  • don’t lie (to others and yourself),
  • don’t repeat mistakes,
  • don’t quit.

Do you have your DO-NOT-DOs? Share some of them 😉

PS: for those interested, here’s a great post by Ivana Sendecka on Why Having “NOT To-Do List” Can Save You (Time).

Four Simple Tasks To Build Trust

The biggest honour you can get from your family, friends, partners or clients is trust. It’s the prerequisite of any fruitful relationship. Without trust it just doesn’t work.

No one can love you, help you or collaborate with you without trust. Maybe for short while.

But once trust is lost, it’s all gone.

What can we do to build trust?

  1. care – just care for the other person, truly and deeply. Pay attention to their needs, problems and happy moments. Show empathy and share their feelings.
  2. be there – just be there, whenever they need you.
  3. know – know what is happening in their lives. It’s so great to see someone is paying attention and knows something about you that you wouldn’t expect.
  4. keep promises – maybe the most important. Whenever you promise something, keep your promise. Every broken promise just drains your trust well almost to the bottom.

Trust is essential. Build it. Keep it. Don’t lose it.