Words are powerful. Wary of the words you use and hear from others. They form your actions just like your thinking forms the words.
I have couple of special phrases that I watch out – either in my speech or when talking to others.
I’ll do my best – that actually doesn’t mean it will be done. It means you will try, but maybe if something comes up, you won’t. Have you heard that from any of your colleagues / partners recently? I wonder how much of „I’ll do my best“ actually translates into „It’s done“.
Replace with: „I’ll get it done and I’ll do it the best way I can.“
I have to – there’s really little things we „have to do“. Most of the things we chose to do, i.e. we want to do them. Either directly, or as a follow-up choice on a previous one. „I have to“ puts us into passive mode: „It’s not my choice, it was chosen for me.“ Watch out!
Replace with: „I want to. I chose to.“
I wish I could, but – well, this is old news: YOU CAN. It will take time, effort and pain to do, but you can. It’s just like with „I have to“ – the sentence after „I wish I could, but…“ is an excuse, by which we vindicate our inaction and try to make ourselves feel better by showing some effort (I wish).
Replace with: „I chose to do other things, which matter to me.“ or „I won’t do it now, because I have some skill to acquire. Then I’ll do it.“ or „I am afraid to do it.“
I can do it tomorrow as well – yes, you can. But too many times it means you can do it today as well, but you are just pushing it off.
Replace with: „I could do it tomorrow, but I will do it today. I will not procrastinate!“
Wary of the words which you use, because they form your thinking just as your thinking forms the words. And beware of what words you hear from others.
A suggestion: listen more carefully to your speech for next couple of days and find out the phrases that you should be vary of.
What phrases do you watch out in your talk / self-talk?